Yes, of course I do, you say. Who doesn’t love money?
But here’s the thing. Do you actually treat your money with love? No, of course not, it’s a thing not a person. But what if we respected our money and did treat it with love? What if we thanked it for all the amazing things it has provided for us so far in life – our education, our clothes, our shelter, our entertainment, our food etc. What if every time we got some money out of our wallet to pay for something we mentally thanked it and smiled at it? What if we felt a sense of joy getting money out of an ATM instead of just feeling furtive about it and quickly hiding it in our wallet as though it’s a dirty little secret.
I’ve been doing a lot of training with Sandy Forster from http://www.wildlywealthywomen.com, as well as following Denise Duffield-Thomas who has the website http://luckybitch.com and reading The Magic by Rhonda Byrne. And here are the top 3 things I’ve learnt:
1. How we treat our money
The law of attraction in its simplest form is about attracting back what we put out there. So if we are really positive people, we are likely to attract other positive people into our lives. If we believe we are going to have a bad day, we usually do! So we might say we love money but we don’t ACT as if we love money. Therefore if we don’t feel money love, money isn’t going to love us. What if you started saying thank you and really appreciating your money all the time? How would that feel? It’s been incredibly liberating for me. It gives me more ease. It actually makes me feel wildly wealthy – the fact I live in a light filled tiny apartment with a view fills my heart with joy (whether I rent or I own is beside the point – it still has the same view), I can afford to buy mostly organic food and any cheese I want which seems pretty decadent and wealthy, I have a cupboard full of clothes and don’t need anymore, I’ve been overseas (even though I’ve never been to Europe), I’ve eaten in some of Australia’s best restaurants, I replace my shoes when they break….. so really can’t that be classed as wealthy? Do I need to have paid off a big house to be wealthy? Do I need designer clothes? Do I need to have travelled the globe to prove my wealth? Do I need a fancy expensive car? Like so many other things in life, if we stop comparisons and appreciate what is, we really are abundant.
2. How we talk about our money
Money is something we aren’t meant to talk about. It really is a dirty secret. But says who? What if we now changed our beliefs around money? What if it was ok to talk about it – how much we earn, what we do with it, what things we buy actually cost? What if we didn’t feel guilty about how we spend our money? We talk about where we buy clothes and where we go or don’t go to church, and what restaurants we like. What is different with money? Are we scared of looking greedy, undeserving or jealous? Is there shame in money? Are these lessons we have learnt through the generations that no longer suit us? I’m ecstatic for people that do amazing work and earn fabulous money. They are inspiring. I don’t think it is unfair, or that they are just lucky. I believe they understand their value. There is enough out there for everyone. There is no scarcity. We have unlimited potential to earn whatever we want. To find our niche and our purpose. What is stopping us?
3. how we feel about our money
I am currently not working and have been caught up in a mindset of ‘I have no money’, and ‘I am running out of money’. What a load of rubbish. It’s all about perspective. I still have a little money from my long service leave, I have $10,000 invested in shares from my inheritance, I have a half paid off teeny apartment on the Sunshine Coast in Australia and I have what I think is a whopping balance of $250k in superannuation. And the most exciting part is that after working hard over the last 2 years I have no bad debt!!!!! FINALLY. So for all intents and purposes I am wealthy! I have so much right now that many people will never have. I can confidently say I am wildly wealthy. Why would I cause myself unnecessary pain by walking around saying I have no money. It’s just self-meanness. So the last couple of weeks I have been attempting to change my internal programming to say ‘I have plenty of money, I am wealthy’. And surprisingly it feels fantastic. I feel safe and secure and on track. And I’ve no idea if it’s a direct cause or not but I don’t seem to be spending as much money…
Does it make you uncomfortable that I type up these figures? Is it any different from people showing people the new homes they have bought? The price is easily accessible on the internet. So what difference does it make? Why should we not talk about money? What if we were friends with our money and discussed our money? Would we begrudge people that have extravagant amounts of money? Would we think people with no money are losers? Or would we be learning to be less judgemental and accept we are all where we are meant to be right now? And other people’s business is none of our business. It’s up to us to have the sort of relationship with money we want to have.
What if we allowed ourselves to love money? To make friends with it instead of resisting it and treating it like it is evil constantly slipping out of our fingers? Would changing your mindset about money lighten your load a little? Can changing your perspective change your reality?
Be kind to yourself .
Wx
Morning sunrise from my place
Clouds and a sliver of sunshine last night (Sydney Cricket Ground lights on in the distance for a game!)
