Do you know what you want in a relationship? What a great one looks like for you? Do you put in work like you do for your body and your job? What’s most important to you? Is the majority of your time in your life spent on the things that are most important to you? Where does your relationship fit into your priority list? Really interesting stuff to ponder.

Tony Robbins is huge on relationships. A whole day at Date with Destiny is spent on your significant relationship. And if you’re not in one the idea is to help you get incredibly clear on what you do want for a future relationship. How you want it to look and how you are going to ‘show up’ in that relationship.

And of course the key is always going to be to ‘complete’ yourself. No one else is going to complete you. You are responsible for your own happiness – no one else is even capable of doing it. When two people come to a relationship in charge of their own stuff with no expectations, magic can happen.

At Tony we were asked to write a relationship vision. I wanted it to be everything. I didn’t want anything missed out. Instead of a clear vision I ended up with a list (which I still love and use):

You are my gift. Our relationship is love, bliss, connection, happiness, joy, adventure, understanding, care, curiosity, support, encouragement, adoration, fascination, inspiration, trust, sharing, time, ENERGY, presence, focus, belief, beauty, grace, abandon, passion, no walls, safety, spontaneity, fun, the priority, laughter, games, playfulness, silliness, listening and not fixing, learning together, growing, new, exciting, no expectations, pure flow of love, hand holding, closeness/touch, goals together, moving closer, peace divine guidance, magic moments, sexy, surprising, opening, vulnerable, experimenting, romantic, cherished, beloved, fulfilling and extraordinary. This is home.

The other morning I woke up and the concise version came to me. And it felt good. Great in fact. Exciting. And that’s the key to knowing we have something right. It’s how it feels.

TO CONTINUALLY WORK TOWARDS BEING THE BEST VERSION OF ME SO I CAN BRING YOU GREATER FOCUS, LOVE AND PASSION.

So this is my new focus. To be this. I love it.

Be kind to yourself.

Wx