Do many of us still suffer from this?  Are we still totally focussed on having the perfect body, the perfect relationship, the perfect career, the perfect family, the perfect house and the perfect balance in life?  We are striving for something that doesn’t exist.

Oh no, you say?  That’s not you.  Do you see yourself as more evolved?  I like to think I am.  Then why am I wide awake at 5am pondering this.  Are we just fooling ourselves with excuses and turning the words around?  “Oh I just want to be the best I can be.”  What does that really mean?  Are we seeing it all wrong?

Where does this pressure come from?  Is it the media?  Are we caught up in judgement and comparison?  Are we able to stop it?  Do we even want to?

What is this concept of ‘best I can be’?  Measured when?  Second to second?  Measured how?  Accomplishments, dollars earnt, number of likes on Facebook, number and destinations of holidays booked, type of car, type of friends, manners of children, appearance of your partner, exercising every day, looking gorgeous, meditating, acting like a saint?

In the words of the Spice Girls – I’ll tell you what I want, what I really really want:

• I want to adore my body just as it is.  For all the marvellous things it can do.  For the ease and freedom it allows me every day to use my mind and move about and think and love and laugh and ponder.
• I want to get closer to a deep seated belief that all the money in the world doesn’t bring all the happiness in the world
• I want to have complete faith in myself and the universe
• I wanting to stop beating myself up feeling that I am not good enough
• I want to stop judgements and comparisons to other people (which I think ultimately stops me from feeling they are not good enough)
• I want to stop judgements and comparisons of other people (is there such a thing as good or bad or it just is what it is so let it go)
• I want to enjoy all the quirks and foibles of all the humans in my life and love their human-ness
• I want to be light hearted and not so serious about things
• I want to always feel confident and capable, bold and brave, and safe and secure
• I want to do a happy dance more than once a day because I’m so excited
• I want to wake up full of vitality and anticipation about what a wonderful day is ahead
• I want to move about my day seeing happy smiley contented people everywhere
• I want to have fascinating positive passionate conversations with people
• I want to appreciate everything more

What do you really really want?

Be kind to yourself.

Wx